Health Mind & Mood Emotional Well-Being How to Be Happy: 14 Extremely Practical Tips for More Happiness in Your Life How happy are you really? If there's room for improvement, learn how to be happy with these tips. By Gretchen Rubin Gretchen Rubin Gretchen is a former lawyer and the author of five New York Times bestselling books. A regular columnist for O, The Oprah Magazine, she was a guest contributor on emotional health for Real Simple in 2019. Gretchen and her sister Elizabeth also host an award-winning podcast, Happier with Gretchen Rubin. Highlights: * Author of 10 books * Author of five New York Times bestselling books * Her book, The Happiness Project, has sold more than one million copies and been published in more than 30 languages * Host of award-winning podcast, Happier with Gretchen Rubin * Regular columnist for O, The Oprah Magazine and interviewed by Oprah * Former law clerk for Supreme Court Justice Sandra Day O'Connor Real Simple's Editorial Guidelines Updated on January 07, 2024 Reviewed by Samina Ahmed Jauregui, PsyD Reviewed by Samina Ahmed Jauregui, PsyD Samina Ahmed Jauregui is a specialty trained sleep psychologist with expertise in non-pharmaceutical, behavioral treatment of sleep disorders. Other areas of mental health expertise include chronic illness management, pain management, and mood and anxiety difficulties that impact physical health and wellness. Dr. Ahmed has five years of experience in the field of sleep psychology. Learn More Fact checked by Isaac Winter Fact checked by Isaac Winter Isaac Winter is a fact-checker and writer for Real Simple, ensuring the accuracy of content published by rigorously researching content before publication and periodically when content needs to be updated. Highlights: Helped establish a food pantry in West Garfield Park as an AmeriCorps employee at Above and Beyond Family Recovery Center. Interviewed Heartland Alliance employees for oral history project conducted by the Lake Forest College History Department. Editorial Head of Lake Forest College's literary magazine, Tusitala, for two years. Our Fact-Checking Process A few years ago, I had a sudden realization: I was wasting my life. I stared out the rain-spattered window of a New York City bus, and saw the years slipping by. "What do I want from life?" I asked myself. "Well…I want to be happy." I had many reasons to be happy: My husband was the tall, dark handsome love of my life, we had two delightful girls, and I was a writer living in my favorite city. I had friends, I had my health, and I didn't have to color my hair. But too often I sniped at my husband or the drugstore clerk. I felt dejected after even a minor professional setback. I lost my temper easily. Is that how a happy person acts? 12 Everyday Habits to Train Your Brain to Be Happier I decided to begin a systematic study of happiness. (A little intense, I know. But that's the kind of thing that appeals to me.) I spent a year test-driving the wisdom of the ages, current scientific studies, and tips from popular culture—happy colors, happy books, and all. "If I followed all the advice for how to feel happy," I wanted to know, "would it work?" Well, the year is over, and I can say: It did. I made myself happier. And along the way, I learned a lot about how to be happier. Use these tips to start your own Happiness Project. I promise it won't take you a whole year. The 15 Best Happiness Tips for a Happier You 1. Don't start with profundity. When I began my Happiness Project, I realized pretty quickly that, rather than jumping in with lengthy daily meditation or answering deep questions of self-identity, I should start with the basics, like going to sleep at a decent hour and not letting myself get too hungry. Science backs this up; these two factors have a big impact on happiness. 2. Do let the sun go down on anger. I had always scrupulously aired every irritation as soon as possible, to make sure I vented all bad feelings before bedtime. But studies show that the notion of anger catharsis is poppycock. Expressing anger related to minor, fleeting annoyances just amplifies bad feelings, while not expressing anger often allows it to dissipate. 6 Healthy Ways to Channel Your Anger Into Something Good 3. Fake it 'til you feel it. If I'm feeling low, I deliberately act cheery, and I find myself actually feeling happier. If I'm feeling angry at someone, I do something thoughtful for her and my feelings toward her soften. This strategy is uncannily effective. 4. Realize that anything worth doing is worth doing badly. Challenge and novelty are key elements of happiness. People who do new things―learn a game, travel to unfamiliar places―are happier than people who stick to familiar activities that they already do well. I often remind myself to "Enjoy the fun of failure" and tackle some daunting goal. Want to Be More Positive? Here Are 10 Things Optimistic People Do 5. Don't treat the blues with a "treat." Often the "treats" I chose weren't good for me. While it's easy to think, I'll feel good after I have a few glasses of wine…a pint of ice cream…a cigarette…a new pair of jeans, it's worth pausing to ask whether this will truly make things better. 6. Buy some happiness. Our basic psychological needs include feeling loved, secure, and good at what we do. You also want to have a sense of control. Money doesn't automatically fill these requirements, but it sure can help. I learned to look for ways to spend money to stay in closer contact with my family and friends, promote my health, work more efficiently, eliminate sources of irritation and marital conflict, support important causes, and have enlarging experiences. For example, when my sister got married, I splurged on an expensive digital camera that gave me a lot of happiness. 7. Don't insist on the best. There are two types of decision-makers. Satisficers make a decision once their criteria are met. When they find the hotel or the pasta sauce that has the qualities they want, they're satisfied. Maximizers want to make the best possible decision. Even if they see a bicycle or a backpack that meets their requirements, they can't make a decision until they've examined every option. Satisficers tend to be happier than maximizers, so I learned that sometimes, good enough is good enough. 8. Exercise to boost energy. I knew, intellectually, that this worked, but I'd tell myself, "I'm just too tired to go to the gym." Even a 10-minute walk can brighten my outlook. 12 Unexpected Health Benefits of Walking and How to Make a Habit of It 9. Stop nagging. I figured if I stopped nagging, my husband would never do a thing around the house. Wrong. If anything, more work got done. Plus, I got a surprisingly big happiness boost from not nagging. I replaced nagging with the following persuasive tools: wordless hints (for example, leaving a new lightbulb on the counter); using just one word (saying, "Milk!" instead of talking on and on); not insisting that something be done on my schedule; and, most effective of all, doing a task myself. Why did I get to set the assignments? 10. Eat less ultra-processed foods. Although it's okay to indulge in desserts, sodas, and potato chips every once in a while, be sure to limit your consumption of these foods. As much as we hate to say it, ultra-processed foods are scientifically proven to lower your mood. According to a Harvard Medical School study, those who ate processed foods were more likely to experience depression than those who ate less of it. 11. Start volunteering. Whether its helping out at an animal shelter or signing up to manage the next food drive at work, volunteering can have an immense impact on your mood. According to a study from the London School of Economics, people who engaged in voluntary work were 7% happier than those who did not. 12. Connect with the outdoors. Go on a hike and you'll be happy you did—literally! According to one study, being in nature for at least 30 minutes a week is proven to lower blood pressure and decrease your risk of depression. If hiking isn't your jam, consider something as simple as sitting in your own backyard or meditating in your local park. 13. Hang out with friends. Whether its going to a coworker's birthday party or enjoying the company of your cat in your living room, all companionship is beneficial. There's no doubt that humans are social creatures, and seeing friends is a great way to reduce stress and feel a sense of support. 14. Consider seeing a therapist. When life gets difficult, it can be beneficial to have someone to turn to for advice. While you don't need to have a big problem to give therapy a shot, a mental health professional can help you find different ways to cope with any obstacles that may stand in your way. Was this page helpful? Thanks for your feedback! Tell us why! Other Submit Sources Real Simple is committed to using high-quality, reputable sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts in our articles. 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